And what weaves itself throughout this drama- but alcohol. She gets in deep, emotional depression….telling me how she is worthless because she is a stay at home mom….and how I am so important because I make all the money and get all the accolades from work…blah blah. I have tried to encourage her for 2 YEARS to find some (girl) friends…>REAL FRIENDS> but she isolates herself. I have encouraged her to find a job, get a hobby….go out during the day…find a LIFE. But, she tells me to stop trying to “solve her problems.” Yet, she continues to drink.
That’s my mature side talking. In more crude terms: Boyfriend needs to you-know-what or get off the that cozy little pot he’s occupying. Pretty safe to say he has no plans to do either, because apparently he requires the intimate connection of 2 women in order to have his “full spectrum” of needs met. Without judging that, (Har!) and based on my own experience with this kind of situation, this is a hands-down double-dealbreaker for me. It involves his inability to disengage from his old girlfriend (and to me, who dumped who is irrelevant), coupled with the enmeshed families’ intrusiveness. Oy.